How Can One Improves ?

Amelia in Kuala Lumpur has sent me an email on Monday telling me that she has done the Personal Personality profile and she sought for my advice pertaining to areas where she can work on to improve herself.


Amelia is a person who is committed, security-oriented type: engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.

She considers herself to be an astute, loyal and imaginative person, especially when it comes to what might be threatening to her safety or security. She can usually spot what might be dangerous or harmful, and can experience as much fear as if it were really happening. She will either avoid dangers or challenge them. She likes to take time to think things through before taking action, and she are good at anticipating problems and developing solutions. It is important for her to know where she stand with people or in any given situation. Any uncertainty or ambiguity can make be anxious and make me push for clarity, sometimes with endless questioning. She tend to identify with underdog causes and are very loyal once she are committed to a person or cause.

Recommendations for change:

With this type of personality, I have recommended the following suggestions for his consideration to change for a better life:

Remember that there is nothing unusual about being anxious since everyone is anxious and much more often than she might think. Learn to be more present to her anxiety, to explore it, and to come to terms with it. Work creatively with her tensions without turning to excessive amounts of alcohol (or other drugs) to allay them. In fact, if she is present and breathing fully, anxiety can be energizing, a kind of tonic that can help make her more productive and aware of what she is doing.


She tends to get edgy and testy when she is upset or angry, and can even turn on others and blame them for things she have done or brought on herself. Be aware of her pessimism: it causes her dark moods and negative thought patterns that she tends to project on reality. When she succumbs to this self-doubt, she can become her own worst enemy and may harm herself more than anyone else does.


She tends to overreact when she is under stress and feeling anxious. Learn to identify what makes her overreact. Also realize that almost none of the things she has feared so much has actually come true. Even if things are as bad as she thinks, her fearful thoughts weaken her and her ability to change things for the better. She cannot always manage external events, but she can manage her own thoughts.


Work on becoming more trusting. There are doubtless several people in her life she can turn to who care about her and who are trustworthy. If not, go out of her way to find someone trustworthy, and allow herself to get close to that person. This will mean risking rejection and stirring up some of her deepest fears, but the risk is worth taking. She has a gift for getting people to like her, but she is unsure of herself and may be afraid of making a commitment to them. Therefore, come down clearly on one side or the other of the fence in her relationships. Let people know how she feels about them.


Others probably think better of she than she realizes, and few people are really out to get her. In fact, her fears tells she more about her attitudes toward others than she indicates about others' attitudes toward her.


So much has been discussed about personal value personality profile ( PVPP ) in the past months. It is an unique and methodical, radical and rigorous approach to understanding the dynamics of human motivation, experience, relationships and performance. The inventive insights that we uncover through the personality profile instrument enable a far deeper understanding of the real issues in our own personality, allowing us to forge more powerful and purposeful responses.

How PVPP works ?

The PVPP is a scientific approach to understand one’s behavior , values sand attributes towards their work at the work place. Research had discovered that an individual’s behavior, values and attributes contributes 78% of a personal performance criteria. It is different from other personality tool in that they focused only on an individual’s behavior.

The critical aspect of a personality profile instrument is its "reliability"
rating. Through strenuous and extensive field testing in USA, UK and Malaysia, I come to understand that PVPP’s instrument enjoys a reliability factor of 0.86. This means the assessment tool is highly reliable and accurate.

PVPP instrument focuses on distinctive programme principles that measures all three critical areas including - Behavior, Values and Personal Attributes built in mind for personal or organizational development to:

· Elevate Coaching Effectiveness

· Maximize organizational Morale & Productivity

· Reduce Organizational Conflict

· Better Succession Planning

· Enhance ROI on Training Investment

· Maximize Talent & Potential



PVPP is an important tool for employers to find out the inner geography of his/her potential employees. It act as a mirror to reveal features of one’s personality that normally are invisible to us. Most of the time, people function habitually as if on “ automatic pilot, : according to the pattern of our basic personality types.

This allows people to get along well enough in their lives, but when their normal routines break down or the stresses of their lives increase too much, their normal way of coping also tends to break down or become dysfunctional. Seeing clearly what our habitual patterns are—seeing what we are doing and why we are doing it, and at what cost to ourselves and others—holds the key to our liberation. By knowing your type correctly, you are able to see yourself—to "catch yourself in the act"—as you move throughout the day. With this increased self-awareness, you are also able to avoid reacting in negative and potentially dangerous ways.


Once real balance has been restored to the personality structure, the PVPP can help you to orient yourselves to the higher spiritual and psychological qualities that each type has in abundance. Thus, at its highest, the PVPP invites us to look deeply into the mystery of our true identity. It reveals that we are not our personality, but something more—a spiritual being who has lost contact with his or her true nature. Living out of this realization shifts completely how we see ourselves, others, and the world, bringing liberation, freedom, and joy.


Conclusion

Thus when Amelia took the PVPP assessment with me 8 weeks ago, we have presented her the report and she come back to us to discuss with her specifically on areas where she can work to bring about a better world in her life.

Since Wednesday , Amelia has been communicating with me. She said that she can see changes in her life and she is learning everyday to bring about a better her in her surrounding environment. I am happy for her.